Female Teachers as Sexual Predators: The double standard remains!

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When a 34-year-old female teacher was arrested for having a sexual relationship with her 17-year-old student, it made the local news. They had met when she was his teacher and began dating, and continued even after she had changed schools. Her behavior reached the eyes and ears of the police Sex Crimes Unit, who made the arrest.

When the local paper ran the story, the comments from readers (all male, of course), ran along the usual: “Where can I see a picture of her?”; “What’s the problem here?  This is every teenage boy’s dream.”; “I think he’ll recover fairly quickly.”; “How much ‘therapy’ will it take to help this poor young man recover from the trauma?”; “Who is the victim here again?”; “Where were these teachers when I was in high school?  I can keep my mouth shut!”; and “Don’t be shy of some cougar love.  Go get ‘em!”

It’s a double standard, where many in the public (again, often males) cannot see the real harm when these stories appear. So a 17-year age gap seems perfectly fine for them if it involves a male victim, who must have been a willing participant and a female perpetrator, who just couldn’t help herself. But when the roles are reversed, and a 34-year-old male teacher has a sexual relationship with one of his 17-year-old female students, let the howling for justice begin. “Where was the school and the police during all this?” go the shouts. “Why didn’t the parents or other teachers, campus staff, or district administrators see this was going on? Hang that pedophile from the highest oak!”

Why is it so difficult for some people on the outside looking in to see the damage to the minor child?  Why are some so quick to rationalize the behavior as not harmful, a waste of police resources, and something the boy in question should be “proud” of? These statements are not made when the teacher is a male and the victims are of either sex. If a 34-year-old male teacher were to engage in a sexual relationship with a 17-year-old male student, he would be called a pervert in print, and worse. Again, there is a constant double standard when female teachers are the perpetrators.

When it comes to violence against others, women are rarely considered as having that potential until they act out in horrific ways. When they do, many people are shocked, since they rarely consider women to have the same urges for violence, revenge, and the desire to create mass casualties.  But Jennifer San Marco, a former Goleta, CA postal worker returned to her former site and killed six.  And Professor Amy Bishop killed three co-workers at the University of Alabama Huntsville. Women do bad things too.

So when it comes to sexual behavior with a male student, do female teachers use the same techniques of gradualism, grooming, flirting, and targeting as their male counterparts? Of course.  Do female teachers who want sex seek out their targets specifically, looking for vulnerabilities, poor or missing family relationships, early sexual interest, and early physical development via male puberty? Certainly. Is there more institutional denial on school campuses and from administrators and districts as to the possibility of a female teacher engaging in sex with her student? Probably.

Motive, in cases where a teacher establishes a sexual relationship with a student, is both internal and not easily understood. For male teachers, the motive for these behaviors is often believed to be because of sexual desire, power, dominance, a “midlife crisis,” arrested development, or even a paraphilia, as with any other adult with a true sexual attraction to children.

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But for female teachers, other motives may come into play: the desire to “care for” a male child from a broken home, which then de-evolves into sex; a need to feel attractive, wanted, and sexually desired by a young man, who may not have the capacity to understand or give real love, but certainly has the testosterone to provide sex; or even as revenge against a husband who is no longer emotionally supportive. Are any of these valid reasons? Of course not, because all teachers are warned from the day they enter their degree programs and from the moment they get hired, (and during in-service training classes and staff development days) to follow the appropriate, age-old, and ethical warning: Do not have a physical relationship with a student.

For those scoffers who doubt there is any real harm to a male student who had a sexual fling with one of his “Hot for Teacher” instructors, consider the real possibilities of an unwanted pregnancy, eighteen years of child support payments, sexually transmitted diseases, and lifelong feelings of shame as the teenager matures and realizes what he did was wrong too. Since jail penalties differ widely in severity from state to state, the biggest damage to the female teacher is more often about killing her career and the shame factor from peers, colleagues, family, and strangers who recognize her name from the police blotter.  (Some of these cases show up on tabloid TV shows and related pop culture magazines.)

When the classroom crosses over to the bedroom, the people who surround female teachers who become sexual predators—other teachers, school administrators, counselors, therapists, and the police—have a duty to act. Gender is not the issue and same-sex sexual orientation is not the issue; bad boundaries, harmful behavior, unethical conduct, and illegal sex acts with minors are the issues. The double standard as to how we perceive and prosecute these cases needs to stop.

Dr. Steve Albrecht, PHR, CPP, BCC, is a San Diego-based expert on workplace violence. He consults, speaks, and writes on high-risk human resource challenges, employee coaching, corporate security, and police issues. He worked for the San Diego Police Department for 15 years.  He can be reached at drsteve@drstevealbrecht.com.

 

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Man accused of wanting to eat child sex slave gets probation!

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GREENVILLE, S.C. — A man who South Carolina authorities say wanted to enslave and eat a child has been sentenced to probation.

News outlets quote court records as saying 36-year-old Justin Teeter Bensing pleaded guilty to two counts of criminal solicitation of a minor and was sentenced Aug. 9 to 10 years in prison, but the sentence was suspended to five years of probation.

A sentencing sheet The Greenville News obtained from the Greenville County Clerk of Court’s Office says Bensing was diagnosed with autism and considered low risk. The judge said no prior criminal charges were also among the factors determining Bensing’s sentence.

Bensing had been accused of soliciting an undercover officer he thought was a girl. Bensing’s attorney James Brehm said Saturday that the cannibalism comments were Bensing joking with someone else and unrelated to the investigation.

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Man allegedly plotted on dark web to kill, eat underage girl!

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A depraved Texas man was busted in an undercover sting that revealed he allegedly wanted to kill and eat a little girl, authorities said.

Alexander Nathan Barter, 21, was arrested Friday after reportedly posting on the dark web looking for help to fulfill his necrophiliac and cannibalistic desires, according to news station KTRE.

An undercover agent posing as a parent responded and offered his underage daughter to Barter, who expressed interest in raping and killing the girl.

Barter reportedly replied to the officer saying, “Nice! I’m in East Texas. How old is your daughter? Can we kill her?”

In a series of emails, Bart came up with a disturbing plan to meet the father-daughter duo and take the girl back to a Joaquin hotel. The suspect instructed the agent to return home after dropping off his daughter and report her missing to police.

But as Barter was leaving his house for the meet-up, authorities arrested him outside his residence while carrying a plastic trash bag and knife, according to KTRE.

The 21-year-old allegedly confessed to discussing his plans online to kill, rape and cannibalize a minor.

He was booked at Shelby County Jail on charges including attempted capital murder and attempted sexual performance of a child.

Shelby County District Attorney Stephen Shires released a statement saying the incident was a “continued reminder that parents should always be vigilant and aware of what their children are doing on the internet.”

“The dark web, and the individuals that operate there, pose a continued and increasing threat to the safety of our children,” Shires said. “Jurisdiction, geography, and distance serve as a minimal, if any, impediment to some very terrible activities. In this matter, Law Enforcement mounted an effective and integrated effort to deal with this situation.”

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“Just the Tip of the Iceberg”

New Ben Garrison Cartoon, “Just the Tip of the Iceberg”

A sinister cartoon for a sinister story.

The Church has covered up decades of child molestation by priests across the state of Pennsylvania.

For far too long the Church has ignored or hidden a problem of epidemic proportions under their pulpits. Priest who weren’t arrested and jailed were merely shuffled off to different parishes, where they continued their vile ways of abuse.

Instead of telling someone they’re not a Christian if they have a gun in their house, it’s time for the Pope to clean his own house. He has the power to allow priests to marry and have families. It’s not only normal, but also Biblical.

NY Teacher Arrested for Giving Student Oral Sex on a 14 year old boy!

A Bronx public school teacher has admitted she performed oral sex on a 14-year-old boy on “multiple occasions and in multiple locations” — but will not have to go to prison or surrender her teaching license.

Dori Myers, 29, a social studies teacher at The New School for Leadership and the Arts in Kingsbridge, pleaded guilty to a criminal sex act — a D felony requiring her to register as a sex offender.

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Myers, the wife of a Rockland County sheriff’s officer, entered her plea in Manhattan Supreme Court on Wednesday, a day sooner than scheduled — thus letting her avoid the glare of the news media.

Prosecutors requested that Justice Michael Orbus sentence Myers to two years in prison and order that she surrender her New York state teaching certificate.

Instead, Orbus promised to give her 10 years’ probation.

Defense lawyer Andrew Stoll said Myers will be fired by the city Department of Education “and won’t be working for them anymore,” but asked the judge not to make her give up her license, according to a court transcript obtained by The Post.

“There is a possibility that she could teach adults now or in the future and we want to preserve that possibility,” Stoll said. “She still is a talented teacher and has those skills, and I don’t see any reason to destroy her ability to make a living and to contribute to society in a positive way.”

The judge relented, but added, “This would be a matter that any licensing agency will be able to consider, if they choose to do that, and of course any employer.” The state Education Department typically reviews such cases to determine whether to revoke an educator’s license.

Orbus also noted, “I just want to make the record clear that Ms. Myers is aware that she must register as a sex offender.”

Cops got word of Myers’ misdeeds after the boy — believed to be one of Myers’ students — told a classmate, who then notified a school administrator, police said.

Myers was arrested Jan. 19 and pleaded not guilty. At the time, Stoll called Myers “a model citizen who looks forward to clearing her name.”

Orbus set sentencing for Sept. 12, and ordered Myers to report immediately to probation.

EXCLUSIVE: Catholic Church spent $2M on major N.Y. lobbying firms to block child-sex law reform!

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ALBANY — Not leaving it to divine chance, the state Catholic Conference has turned in recent years to some of Albany’s most well-connected and influential lobby firms to help block a bill that would make it easier for child sex abuse victims to seek justice.

The Catholic Conference, headed by Timothy Cardinal Dolan, has used Wilson Elser Moskowitz Edelman & Dicker, Patricia Lynch & Associates, Hank Sheinkopf, and Mark Behan Communications to lobby against the Child Victims Act as well as for or against other measures.

All told, the conference spent more than $2.1 million on lobbying from 2007 through the end of 2015, state records show. That does not include the conference’s own internal lobbying team.

Filings show the lobbyists were retained, in part, to work on issues associated with “statute of limitations” and “timelines for commencing certain civil actions related to sex offenses.” Other issues included parochial school funding and investment tax credits.

“They are willing to spend limitless money in order to basically keep bad guys from being accountable for their actions,” said Melanie Blow, chief operations officer of the Stop Abuse Campaign. “I think they’re doing it because they don’t want to have to pay out settlements.”

Added Kathryn Robb, an advocate and survivor who says she was abused by her brother as a 9-year-old: “If they need to spend that much money on lobbying, clearly, then, they have some pretty big secrets to hide.”

While a far cry from the millions in lobbying top special interests spend in Albany each year, advocates for child sex abuse survivors say the $2.1 million spent likely represents a worthwhile investment to the Catholic Conference if it can continue to block legislation that would eliminate the statute of limitations on child sex abuse civil cases and open a one-year window to bring lawsuits for victims who can no longer sue under current law.

The Catholic Conference has argued that opening a one-year window to revive old cases could ultimately bankrupt the Church.

The firms the Catholic Conference chose is also telling.

Wilson Elser has long been Albany’s biggest lobbying firm. The firm represented the Catholic Conference from at least 2007 through the end of 2015 and was paid more than $1 million during that time, according to online filings with the state Joint Commission on Public Ethics.

After several key people either left the firm or reduced their responsibilities, the Church did not renew the contract with Wilson Elser for 2016, sources said.

Wilson Elser, which was being paid $10,000 a month by the Catholic Conference, had no comment.

In its place, state records show, the Catholic Conference hired another prominent firm, Greenberg Traurig, which it is paying $6,000-a-month. The lobbyist from the firm representing the Church is Michael Murphy, who used to be an assistant counsel for the Senate Republicans.

The Senate GOP opposes the one-year “lookback” window that Democrats are calling for.

The Catholic Church, some Orthodox Jewish groups, and other private entities oppose legislation by Assemblywoman Margaret Markey (D-Queens) and Sen. Brad Hoylman (D-Manhattan) that would eliminate the time limit that prohibits adults who were victimized as children from bringing civil cases after their 23rd birthdays.

Another top firm, Patricia Lynch & Associates, whose namesake had close ties to now disgraced Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver, was hired by the Catholic Conference in 2009. Lynch’s firm for many years was ranked in the top 3 of well-paid lobbyists.

Lynch’s hiring by the Catholic Conference came after the Assembly passed different versions of the Child Victims Act four times from 2006 to 2008. The measure never came up again for a vote after Lynch was hired.

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“Once Ms. Lynch lobbied for the Catholic Conference, Mr. Silver’s support for our bill ended, and the bill did not come out of the Assembly’s Codes Committee … which as speaker, he controlled,” John Aretakis, a former lawyer and an advocate for victims of clergy sex abuse, wrote in a scathing letter recently to a judge handling Silver’s recent criminal sentencing.

State lobbying records show the firm’s contract with the Catholic Conference was terminated earlier this year, not long after Lynch was outed in court papers as having had an affair with Silver.

Silver was sentenced earlier this month to 12 years in prison after his conviction on federal corruption charges.

Lynch, whose firm was being paid $7,500-a-month, would only say her contract with the Catholic Conference was ended by “mutual consent.”

Sheinkopf, meanwhile, has had close ties with Gov. Cuomo, the former leadership of the Senate Democrats when they were in control of the chamber, and even the Senate Republicans.

Like the others who were hired by the Catholic Conference, he would not discuss the specifics about what he does for the $5,000-a-month he is being paid.

“They like me,” he said. “They think I’m smart.”

In an email, Catholic Conference spokesman Dennis Poust wouldn’t comment directly on his organization’s lobbying efforts. He also would not comment on the reasoning behind why specific lobbying firms were chosen.

“The Catholic Conference lobbies on many issues, from assisted suicide to farm worker rights to school choice to criminal justice reform,” Poust said.

He said the conference’s lobbying activity is in full compliance with the law and is reported, as required, to the state Joint Commission on Public Ethics.

“As such it is all a matter of public record,” Poust said. “We have no further comment beyond that.”

Upstate New York man admitted to pretend to be a girl to trick 13 year old boy to send Sexual Photos!

ALBANY, N.Y. — An Upstate New York man has admitted to pretending to be a teenage girl to trick a 13-year-old boy into sending sexually explicit photographs.

James Mattison, 46, of Fort Edward in Washington County pleaded guilty Thursday to sexual exploitation of a child following an October 2016 exchange in which he pretended to be a teen named Megan Mattison. He got the boy to send the photos by threatening to commit suicide if the boy refused, according to the U.S. Attorney’s Office of Northern District of New York.

As part of his plea, Mattison said he exchanged over 7,100 text messages with the boy, whom he met online using the Live.me phone application.

He has been in custody since his arrest in September 2017 and is scheduled to be sentenced on Sept. 10.

Mattison faces at least 15 years and up to 30 years in prison, at least five years and up to lifetime post-imprisonment supervised release and a maximum $250,000 fine, officials said. He also will have to register as a sex offender upon release.

The case was investigated by the FBI, with assistance from the New York State Police and Washington County Probation Department. It is being prosecuted by Assistant U.S. Attorney Joseph Giovannetti.

The case is part of Project Safe Childhood, a nationwide initiative designed to protect children from online exploitation and abuse, led by the U.S. Attorney’s Office.

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